Hey, it’s Nathan. This is the "Welcome" series for How to be Second, especially built for us that are "Seconds", this kind of person. If you signed up for the email list, you're probably already getting these! But of course, you can absorb them as fast as you'd like.
Here's the whole series:
Buying into Your Self (A Second?)
Introducing H2B2 and your Second's Community
- What and WHY is How to be Second?
- Community Agreements?
- The Guide System
- How H2B2 Makes Money
OK, I’m a Second… now what?
- Opportunity Development
- Personal Development
- Professional Development
If we’re a “Community”, what are our Agreements?
Agreements about Behaviors (and upholding them), are what turn Crowds and Camaraderie into “Community”. I also believe being very selective about these is the best thing we can do.
At H2B2, we have 3 Community agreements (today)
- We will Speak from lived experience
- We will Exercise our “Get Help” muscles
- We will be honest about what we need and have
Speak from Lived Experience
When communicating, especially when someone has made a request, shared a pain, or is seeking advice…
- Seek first to understand (ask clarifying questions)
- Speak from lived experience (here’s what I HAVE DONE) unless permission to “whiteboard” or “Ideate” has been specifically granted.
Exercise our Get Help Muscles
As Seconds, we LOVE helping... AND, we're humorously awful at asking for (or accepting) help from others. Our “Figure it out” muscles are so big, they create blind spots for us.
We commit to exercising our GET help muscles, not just our GIVE help muscles.
Honesty with what we need and have
Most groups say no selling, and I get that, but if you need money and/or have a product, I think that’s fine. Just be aware, We’re Seconds; your product will be HEAVILY vetted around here. So just say what you provide and what you need with awkward honesty.
That was a lot - but we always like to ask what you’re ready for next: To grow alone, or go (and grow) together?
If you're ready to grow alone:
You could check out the next parts of this series (if you're on the email sequence, do nothing, it'll just show up)
If you'd like to listen to what it feels like to "Be this person", especially contrasted with a "Dreamer" type, the One Second podcast is for exactly that experience
If you're ready to stay on the pulse of H2B2 and the community, you can make sure you're set to get the weekly email
If you're ready to go (and grow) together:
You can register for the Monthly Meetup and come spend some time in community - or check out the main nav and touch base for what's interesting to you, and talk to a real person about that!